What is meditation for me?

Briefly: Meditation is about reducing suffering and the causes of suffering in my life and the life of others; also increasing happiness and the causes of happiness in my life and the life of others.  In more detail: Meditation for me is the basis of emotional intelligence - also peace, health, happiness and having a meaningful life. A healthy mind means a happy heart. I learned that happiness and peace are always there within me; I just have to learn to get out of my own way to experience it. I experienced a difficult, chaotic, and abusive childhood. I have worked many workshops, therapies; all have been useful but the…

Ego run wild

So much suffering is caused by when we try to live up to an imaginary or idealised self. Happiness, fulfilment is and always will be based on an authentic relationship with ourselves.

Are you successful?

If your definition of success is very narrow, for example, getting into the Guinness book of records for eating the most hotdogs or having the longest fingernails, whilst a bit weird, it is essentially harmless. But if, for example, a business has profitability as it’s only measure of success, then it will sacrifice the wellbeing of both its workers and customers to achieve this. Sadly, there is no shortage of examples of this. If we are awake to the reality of connection, then success must be defined as something that is good for not just you, but for others too. What is the point of success if we have to…

The Euphoria trap

What is happiness? A famous Buddhist  saying  goes like this:  “Happiness  (sukkha)  is  that  which  can  be borne with  ease.  Suffering (dukkha) is that which cannot be borne with ease.”  This is about as simple and direct a definition of happiness as I have found. I have stated on many occasions that one of the greatest causes of unhappiness is the belief that we ought to be happy. Another cause is the effort to create/ we use chasing happiness combined without not knowing what happiness is. The fact is that we cannot create happiness, only the conditions favourable for happiness to arise. Rather like a huerta; with a vegetable garden…

Is there a shortcut to happiness?

For many years I confused happiness with having a good time. I had no idea that happiness and having a good time were completely different things. During many years of my life having a good time meant chemically altering myself, with alcohol or another psychotropic substance. Then and only then did I believe that I was happy. I simply couldn’t imagine a good time (“being happy”) without taking something. I felt that, unless something was “intense”, then it was boring. I was stuck, looking for happiness outside of myself, which is why, at that time, my idea of happiness was anything that distracted me from myself. Chemical shortcuts seemed an…