Tricky People II

In our last newsletter we introduced the four gremlins – those roles tricky people take on – not just other people - ourselves too (sometimes): the blamer, the placator, the cold analyser type, the whirlwind. If the blamer gremlin takes you over, it is helpful to do the following: Express that you don’t agree without blaming others.Be aware of your fear and anxiety; don’t reject them, rather explore them with open curiosity. Give your point of view, but also see the bigger picture and express what you need. If you find yourself in placator mode, in order to find the courage to express your opinión, it can be of use:…

Tricky people

In the last retreat the subject of tricky, difficult people came up. There are people we get on well or relatively well with but with others it’s not so easy. This is no big deal if it’s a person we will probably never meet again in the future – for example, that driver who cuts us up. But if it’s with a work colleague or someone close, or worse still, an expartner… oof!... they can really topple our peace of mind. More problems in life are caused because we take offence than by others giving offence. When someone starts to unsettle you it can be useful to take heed of…