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Happiness – chasing it won’t make you happy

Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you; but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.  – Henry Thoreau We have become confused about happiness and it is making us unhappy. Let me put it another way: it is not the purpose of your life to be happy. However, if you believe that it is and make being happy your objective, you will make yourself unhappy. Evolution has provided us with a basic guiding force, a drive that is shared by every sentient being: we naturally have an aversion to suffering and…

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I’m right

A question I often ask of a group is the following: “What is most important to you, to be right, or to be happy?” People look at me like the question is a “no brainer” as they answer, “to be happy of course!”  I then ask, “how do you behave in your everyday life? The answer is usually accompanied by a smile of realization as they reply, “To be right”. The thing that the ego hates the most is to not be right. So much discord is created by the ego’s need to be right. We are all guilty of this. I certainly am. For example, you are arguing with…