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What you resist, persists

Perception is everything. Perception creates a feeling and we act out of that feeling. How is an attractive woman perceived? To her lover she is perceived as a delight; to the monk she is a distraction and to the bear she is simply lunch! Based on these perceptions, the lover runs towards her with open arms, the monk looks away and the bear eats her up. Our perception determines our behaviour. An event arises in our field of consciousness; we perceive it in a certain way, which in turn creates a feeling, and we act out of that feeling. When I first came to meditation, I spent my time trying…

Compassion Vs Empathy

Something that we all have in common with each other is that we all would like to be free of suffering and experience happiness. In spite of these intentions and because of our ignorance, we create suffering in our lives. Compassion is not pity. It is related to empathy but it is different to empathy. Empathy is when we “feel with” a person. We feel in our own bodies their emotional suffering. Empathy is an important facet of our connection with others, but if we stop just with empathy without moving forwards to compassion, two important things can happen. Continued exposure to the suffering of others and empathising, for example…

The Story

The Story: He was four years old − a sensitive intelligent child and he was without power in the material world. He had not chosen his parents, nationality, culture, religion, siblings, school, or neighbours. Equipped by evolution to survive, he was supremely adaptable; he knew instinctively that his survival depended on his parents, but their merciless criticism and humiliation made it clear that his parents didn’t value who he was. So how then could he? It was clear that he simply was not enough and so, without realising it, he abandoned himself. He rejected that foul, unworthy child and began to create a perfect being, worthy of love, worthy of…

Your mind: Your Greatest Friend and greatest enemy

Who is your enemy? Mind is your enemy. No one can harm you more than your own mind untamed. And who is your friend? Mind is your friend. No one can help you more than your own mind, wisely trained—not even your own mother and father. —Buddha One of the things that would improve my experience of bars and restaurants, would be to not have the television relentlessly blaring away. Just the other day I found myself becoming irritated by some stupid program which seemed to consist of weirdly plastic people gossiping, criticising and being horrible to each other; at other times it has been telesales — the voice of…

Responding to anxiety (rather than reacting to it)

Anxiety provokes an instant reaction “get me out of here”. This is called aversion. The appearance of anxiety feels like a set-back but fighting it is much worse. Beyond anxiety lies acceptance which is the greater gain. We feel fear, even a sense of panic as we sense the arrival of this familiar uncomfortable visitor, we feel it rising from the abdomen to the chest or throat. We notice our desire to move away from it but instead of reacting with avoidance we respond with our attention: we observe, and accept our body and mind ─ just as they are in that moment; no running away, no believing that it…

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