Attitude of growth

To live well is to embrace change. Constant change is the natural state of the universe; nothing is permanent. If we cannot accept or adapt to this fact then we are less likely to experience happiness and wellbeing. One of the key attitudes for resilie …

   


Not your fault but it is your responsibility

Have you ever asked yourself just how much time and money you waste drinking alcohol? The time you dedicate to having a good time rather than happiness? For many years I didn’t understand the profound difference between these two states. Happiness is a …

   


Finding purpose in life

What is your purpose in life? Are you working at or taking part in something bigger than yourself? Are you taking steps to make sure the impact you have in the world is positive? I wrote last week about forgiveness and how it is a good predictor of lon …

   


Without connection there is no future

I spent much of my childhood in Cyprus. I have memories of myself as a child of 8 or 9 years of age lying in the back of an estate car whilst my father drove us through the night from Nicosia to Limassol. This was in the sixties in a time before seatbe …

   


Forgiveness – what does it mean and how to forgive

The ability to forgive is a vital skill for your wellbeing. The greatest benefit of forgiveness accrues to the person doing the forgiving. This process of forgiveness is for you. When we are unable to forgive, we constantly relive (rather than simply r …

   


I don’t know what to do, I’m desperate!

If that describes how you feel right now then congratulations! The circumstances are right for growth. You might think that I am pulling your leg, but growth is rarely comfortable. Personal growth, by its very nature, means stepping outside of your com …

   


Courage and creativity

I have become more fearful and less optimistic; perhaps due to the COVID 19 pandemic; perhaps because of global warming, the rise of autocratic regimes, the rise of inequality, the lack of privacy; perhaps due to the manipulation and hatred created by …

   


When I think of all the good times I have wasted having good times.

Many years ago (beginning of the eighties) I was on holiday with a friend, accompanied by our respective girlfriends. Ten days in the sun on a Greek island. Our days consisted of getting up late around midday, going for a swim and having a shower − mos …

   


Fire, aim ready!

“Ready, aim, fire!” always works better than, “fire, aim, ready!” Want to know yourself? Then, adopt the right attitude. Years ago in a previous life, I was involved in a project for an insurance company. Its European communication network had started …