Are you successful?

If your definition of success is very narrow, for example, getting into the Guinness book of records for eating the most hotdogs or having the longest fingernails, whilst a bit weird, it is essentially harmless. But if, for example, a business has prof …

   


The problem with gurus

Recently yet another religious scandal has emerged; Sogyal Rinpoche, a well-known Buddhist teacher and with whom I once shared a retreat has resigned after being accused of physical, sexual and psychological abuse of his disciples. I have travelled the …

   


Your mind is like a vegetable patch

Between the ages of 10 and 14 I was, amongst other things, an altar boy. I did this mostly to get the approval of the nuns and priests of the children’s homes I lived in. It also gave me a sense of being holier than the other boys, a balm for the pain …

   


Grief and Impermanence

People attend our retreats in Cantabria for many reasons. One of the more common reasons is to come to terms with the loss of a loved one. In our society our experience of death is quite limited, so when it comes, it comes as a shocking, painful surpri …

   


Sailing – a metaphor for life

The time is five thirty on the morning of August 1st. I am leaving our home in Cantabria to travel to Esbjerg in Denmark, from where, with my brother, I will help sail his yacht across the North Sea to Kent in the South of England. The getting there wi …

   


The importance of feeling wonder

For me, a vital part of my wellbeing is to experience the sensation of wonder. Wonder gives me perspective; it helps to raise my eyes, my awareness. Instead of scratching around like a chicken in the dust of my ego, the experience wonder is to soar lik …

   


3 Ideas to be more in the present moment

Be where you are or before you know it your life will have gone past without you living it- by Geoffrey Molloy. Try this: 1.- When you remember, ask yourself, “Am I in the present moment?” or “Where am I now?” Make asking yourself these questions into …

   


Turn towards or turn away

A sensation of discomfort arises, but before you consciously register your discomfort,  your “autopilot” cuts in and you turn away from the sensation. You turn towards your habitual distractions – distractions we’ve all been conditioned to pursue: work …

   


Notes from this morning’s meditation

The mind initially active, begins to settle. A wrong someone has done to me arises in my thoughts and I see that person’s suffering. I breathe in that person’s suffering and as I breathe out a desire for happiness for that person, so the tightness loos …