Adventure in Marseille

The best opportunities to practice are often disguised and often feel unpleasant. Two weeks ago I travelled to Aix-en-Provence to work. It turned out to be one of those rare and slightly bizarre trips; everything that could have gone wrong, went wrong; …

   


The Lens of Desire

On a Spring day In 1995 not long after we had moved to live in San Lorenzo de El Escorial, I was driving along the Carretera de Guadarrama in a leisurely fashion, in no hurry but with great curiosity to about the place to which we had recently moved. A …

   


And……They lived happily ever after

I first met Rhea in 1990 when she was my neighbour in Winchester, UK. I invited her to my birthday party.  No one was more surprised than me that we fell in love, moved in together just six weeks later, and were married five months later. I also b …

   


A storm in a tea-cup

Mindlessness – we are told – is the opposite to mindfulness. So what does that mean? What does it mean to be mindless? It means to lose touch with ourselves so much that we don’t even know that we have done so. Mindfulness, in contrast, happens when we …

   


How to deal with unresolved feelings or troubling thoughts that come up in the night?

You awake at night, the fog of sleep lifts and straightaway unresolved feelings or troubling thoughts rise to the surface of your awareness.  You feel uneasy, restless. Your first reaction, understandably, is to push whatever it is away: “I don’t want …

   


Gratitude brings happiness

It is not happiness which brings gratitude; It is gratitude which brings happiness. Amongst the practices and attitudes we can adopt and practice, gratitude is probably the most effective. It might, at first glance, seem soppy or religious. However, sc …

   


Two things that will really make a difference in your life

Two things that will really make a difference in your life: The ability to be kind to yourself.  The ability to identify and be with uncomfortable feelings and emotions. Being hard on ourselves, harsh self-criticism are often the tools that we use to b …

   


Are you successful?

If your definition of success is very narrow, for example, getting into the Guinness book of records for eating the most hotdogs or having the longest fingernails, whilst a bit weird, it is essentially harmless. But if, for example, a business has prof …

   


The problem with gurus

Recently yet another religious scandal has emerged; Sogyal Rinpoche, a well-known Buddhist teacher and with whom I once shared a retreat has resigned after being accused of physical, sexual and psychological abuse of his disciples. I have travelled the …