Responding to anxiety (rather than reacting to it)

Anxiety provokes an instant reaction “get me out of here”. This is called aversion. The appearance of anxiety feels like a set-back but fighting it is much worse. Beyond anxiety lies acceptance which is the greater gain. We feel fear, even a sense of p …

   


Future me

Nearly forty years ago, at a time of my life when I still sported a fine head of hair,  I had a girlfriend called Jo. She didn’t drink, smoke, take drugs and yet was one of the happiest, funniest people I knew. She certainly never went unnoticed at par …

   


What forgiveness is

I would like to share the following with you. Whilst researching forgiveness I came across this letter written by a convicted serial killer whilst on death row.  He was executed in 2005 after 18 years on death row.  Clarity of vision and clarity of exp …

   


Joy – it’s contagious

We get it from our dogs. This Christmas I received a present of a 3 month-old “lobero” (wolf-dog)  puppy from Diego, my son-in-law. We already have Haku, a two year old wolf-dog. Some of you reading this will already have met him if you have visited us …

   


Three things to take with you into 2019

I respectfully suggest the following three things to increase your experience of equanimity, connection and wellbeing for 2019 and the future. Just Notice: Once upon a time there was a great spiritual teacher famous throughout the world for the peace h …

   


Family Christmas Ho Ho Ho!

“ If you think that you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family”. quote by Krishnamurti The holiday season with Christmas, New year and (“Los Reyes” in the Spanish-speaking world) all together is the time in the year when families get togethe …

   


The bitter-sweet reality of impermanence

Recently my life seems to be mostly aircraft, airports, hotels and taxis.  I love sleeping in my own bed. If Rhea is there also, then it is perfect.  I sat there in the hotel restaurant eating breakfast.  It is with no great pride that I admit that I f …

   


Adventure in Marseille

The best opportunities to practice are often disguised and often feel unpleasant. Two weeks ago I travelled to Aix-en-Provence to work. It turned out to be one of those rare and slightly bizarre trips; everything that could have gone wrong, went wrong; …

   


The Lens of Desire

On a Spring day In 1995 not long after we had moved to live in San Lorenzo de El Escorial, I was driving along the Carretera de Guadarrama in a leisurely fashion, in no hurry but with great curiosity to about the place to which we had recently moved. A …