A tale from the dark side

A constant companion in my life has been a dark hole of despair. This feeling is not unusual for people who have suffered the types of neglect, abuse or abandonment that I did as a child. In my case (and many others) it gave rise to compulsive avoidanc …

   


Nothing is permanent…not even our relationships

Nothing lasts forever; nothing is permanent and everything changes. That includes the people we love and our relationships with them.   Life is a series of problems or lessons. If we solve a problem adequately, if we learn the lesson, we move on. …

   


Do we have free will – can we change?

“You can do as you wish but you cannot wish as you wish.” I have spent this weekend engrossed in the work of Robert Sapolsky, neuroendocrinologist, primatologist and biologist − specifically his book, Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst …

   


NO excuses

Make mindfulness and meditation your priority. Many people say that they find it difficult to be mindful or meditate. The main reason is “feeling uncomfortable”. For them, just to imagine sitting still for 15 minutes gives rise to a feeling of discomfo …

   


Activity, Status and Addiction

Being active is important; it’s how we make a difference in the world. Nowadays we tend to all be busy, overburdened and perhaps stressed. In fact, stress for many of us has become a part of our self-image. If we are busy and stressed then we are impor …

   


Is it good or is it bad?

Good – want more.  Bad – get me out of here.  This dichotomy is the root of most human suffering. Your genes want you to survive and to create more copies.  All that we are in this physical world arises from this. You can see this reflec …

   


Opinions – Everybody’s got one

The most fatal illusion is the settled point of view. Since life is growth and motion, a fixed point of view kills anybody who has one. Certainty is an illusion. Absolute certainty is an illusion absolutely. In spite of, or maybe because of this, human …

   


Do good without hate

The news, the internet and social media are full of do-gooders offering and calling for support for groups in society that are suffering. Unfortunately, not only are they busy offering support to the suffering but also busy hating those they believe re …

   


Thank you to my true love

We are in the 30th year of our relationship and the 29th year of our marriage.  It has been quite a ride.  I want to share with you some of the things I have learned and to say thank you to Rhea. When I met Rhea I was divorced, living alone. Rhea lived …