The Power of “How”

As I have mentioned before in these pages, my childhood was one of trauma, abuse and abandonment. In the psychology of resilience a metric is used called ACE − Adverse Childhood Experiences (Experiencias Adversas Infantiles). The ACES score is a measur …

   


The power of ignorance

I recently read of a man who was released from prison after being incarcerated for 37 years. DNA tests showed that he was innocent of the crime for which he had been imprisoned for his entire adult life. It seems the police wanted to close the case; th …

   


Compassion is the key

When we practice mindfulness and/or meditation with an attitude of compassion − that is kindness to ourselves − we embark on a life-long voyage of discovery that is rewarding and immensely satisfying. If we don’t adopt this attitude, we run the risk of …

   


Why meditate, what is the point?

When we ask that question we should ask ourselves the question, what is it that we want in our lives? The answers that pop into your head might include such things as more money, a romantic partner, a better job, greater material security. To my way of …

   


Misunderstandings about meditation and why bother to meditate

When I talk about meditation I am also talking about what is known as mindfulness (which, after all, is a type of meditation). Mindful meditation is simply about intentionally bringing your attention to a single point of focus; something that is occurr …

   


Do we have addictive personalities or addictive behaviour?

Here we have a real ‘cracker’. So much utter crap is spoken about addictive personalities when in reality, the idea is no more than a notion. The idea has absolutely no scientific basis. Let’s take a closer look at this. Whilst I was addicted to nicoti …

   


The bee

The other day as I sat at my desk absorbed in writing, I became aware of a furious buzzing and bumping sound from my window. I recognised the sound as a trapped bee banging against the window, trying frantically to get out. I realised that if I didn’t …

   


Living with an alcohol addict is difficult

Alcoholism is not an incurable disease nor are there two categories of drinkers: “normal” and “alcoholics”.  It is a fact that most people who fall into drug/alcohol addiction manage to get free. Alcohol is a legally available very addictive drug. …

   


Compassion Vs Empathy

Something that we all have in common with each other is that we all would like to be free of suffering and experience happiness. In spite of these intentions and because of our ignorance, we create suffering in our lives. Compassion is not pity. It is …