When I think of all the good times I have wasted having good times.

Many years ago (beginning of the eighties) I was on holiday with a friend, accompanied by our respective girlfriends. Ten days in the sun on a Greek island. Our days consisted of getting up late around midday, going for a swim and having a shower − mos …

   


Fire, aim ready!

“Ready, aim, fire!” always works better than, “fire, aim, ready!” Want to know yourself? Then, adopt the right attitude. Years ago in a previous life, I was involved in a project for an insurance company. Its European communication network had started …

   


Trying to change others – it will make you go mad

It’s silly to try and escape others faults; they are inevitable, Just try to escape your own. (Marcus Aurelius) If you want to go crazy then try changing someone. One of the most frustrating, crazy-making things you can do is try to fix someone − your …

   


Blame

Not taking responsibility for yourself, your emotions, your feelings and your actions is a sure way to ensure that you suffer your whole life. As blame goes, I am something of an expert. Blaming was something I learned as a child to survive in toxic an …

   


What you resist, persists

Perception is everything. Perception creates a feeling and we act out of that feeling. How is an attractive woman perceived? To her lover she is perceived as a delight; to the monk she is a distraction and to the bear she is simply lunch! Based on thes …

   


It’s wonderful to be alive

We spend so much time thinking, planning, organising, managing, that we never really experience being fully alive and fully aware. In our hectic distracted lives we are too busy worrying about the future or rehashing the past. When we are like this, we …

   


Anger is hell

Anger and its twin brother hatred are based on projections and exaggeration, not on objectivity or wisdom. Johnny was living in his own private hell, surrounded by people who just wouldn’t behave how they should. His need to be right was paramount. He …

   


My little corner

Ishtar Molloy shares a little something: Welcome to a little glimpse of why chaos is beautiful for me. I get lost when I try to find myself I think, my place in this world. I have a beautiful little cozy corner of it, but many times, it’s easy to step …

   


Which sort of happiness do you prefer?

Happiness has become something of an obsession in our society. You only have to look around you; there are so many books, videos, blogs about the subject. In spite of this, there are still many anxious, depressed and unhappy people. Very few mention th …